tag:holidaymathis.com,2005:/blogs/diaryDiary2022-08-09T09:40:23-05:00Holiday Mathisfalsetag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/70338832022-08-09T09:40:23-05:002023-10-16T09:51:55-05:00a true story for the sturgeon moon<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/43241222e5195ad3dfcd71d550192078a001d44b/original/2.jpg/!!/meta:eyJzcmNCdWNrZXQiOiJiemdsZmlsZXMifQ==/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/6d9e0d77adee217f90d1192de7c392ded12eb709/original/4.jpg/!!/meta:eyJzcmNCdWNrZXQiOiJiemdsZmlsZXMifQ==/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/cab76b25df449afa35a0abebae1e9fea867866e1/original/6.jpg/!!/meta:eyJzcmNCdWNrZXQiOiJiemdsZmlsZXMifQ==/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/32521b67f131f53e78ff0ab4d36a099897d442a3/original/7.jpg/!!/meta:eyJzcmNCdWNrZXQiOiJiemdsZmlsZXMifQ==/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65460472021-02-14T19:05:00-06:002021-02-14T19:20:07-06:00newspaper oracle #5,920<h3><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/2af60f83515ee71d50f1c7c2c760123c369437c0/original/abraham-lincoln-1.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_none" alt="" /></h3>
<h3>Your Horoscope for February 15, 2021</h3>
<h3>Aries Moon Presides Over President’s Day </h3>
<p> The warrior Aries moon presides over the celebration of President’s Day, a day to honor the February birthdays of two beloved Commander in Chiefs who led in the battle for the unity and sovereignty of the United States of America. Born on either side of the solar change, Abraham Lincoln was an Aquarius and George Washington a Pisces. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). Take whatever effort you planned to put in and times it by ten. That’s about what you deliver on the regular because when it comes to the things you care about, going over-board seems like the most natural thing to do in the world. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). At the lower levels, there are penalties for going against the rules. It’s confusing to you though because it does seem that at the higher levels the rules change entirely, if there are any at all. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What to do with each other is not a logistical problem, but a relational one. However, the right timing and atmosphere will be conducive to an easy feeling and good communication, both of which will contribute greatly to success. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). Commitments aren’t made out of laziness, but bad habits are. Pleasure and inaction are easily repeated until the pattern becomes a rut. You’ll decide to repeat the more difficult thing and it’s a commitment that will stick. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The amount of time and energy that go into asserting your control over an uncertain area of life is silly. There’s no guarantee that if you succeed you’ll be secure. You can add hours to your life by simply accepting the uncertainty. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The problem can be solved quite simply, by cutting out that which is unnecessary. The simplicity and lightness of working without all the bells and whistles is not only effective, it’s so pleasurable it may become the new standard. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The pursuit of knowledge is beneficial in that you’ll learn a ton of information, but it can also be an avoidance tactic because it’s less scary to read than it is to actually get in there and experience the thing. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’re focused on seeing a transaction start well and end well. This means prep work, showing up early, staying late, then a wrap-up and reflection to understand what worked, what didn’t, and plan the next approach. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You do the correct thing, the fun thing, add the extra charm, put you’re spin on it… because you never do know when you’re doing something that the other person will remember far into the future. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Talk to friends about what you’re afraid of. When you share your fear with someone who gets it, you go a long way toward relieving the sort of pressure that tends to blow fears out of proportion. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You take responsibility for what happens to you, not because it’s all directly in your control – much of it isn’t – but because it helps you to see where your points of leverage and control are so you can seize them when you can. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Your mind will churn out rationalizations to keep you impeccable, but you recognize that it’s a trick. No one is impeccable and it’s human nature to avoid the vulnerability that comes from being wrong. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 15). You’ll do astounding amounts of good because you stop chasing good’s enemy, “perfect.” This single change will be responsible for increasing your income by thousands and doubling up on your productivity levels too. A simple mutual goal begins an exciting relationship journey. Virgo and Aries adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 12, 5, 18, 33 and 9. </p>
<p>COSMIC QUESTION: "Would you shed a light on my lost soul in love? I have my ex (May 17, 1977) who is married, who I am still in touch with and have so much feeling for that I can't sleep. I fell in love with another Taurus (May 15, 1976) who is so cool that he's cold sometimes. Since he denies me, I broke with him to find somebody who wouldn't take me for granted. But my ex-husband, with his unhappy marriage and kid is still there... what should I do?" </p>
<p>Fascinating that you include both of your love interest's birthdays and forget to include your own. My first intuition is that obviously it’s time to try dating someone who is not a Taurus. These men are so sensual and grounded that it's easy to project all of your need for security onto them. You feel as though if they would only love you that everything will be okay. Though Taurus men can be very loving, they need space -- lots of space. On the second thought, my advice is to stop dating (and hoping and pining and wishing) and invest instead in exploring other interests you have control over, curiosities that will grow on you in a way that will eventually fill in the heart-void causing you to seek so much security outside yourself. What interest would you pursue if there were no other choice but to put yourself first? </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: Matt Groening (2/15/1954) created “The Simpsons,” the longest running prime-time animated show on television. His follow ups “Futurama” and “Disenchantment” establish animated worlds of the future and the past, with the constant that remains through all the Aquarian artist’s work – an understanding of human nature brings people together in laughter. Groening was born under a Leo moon, with Mercury and Venus in empathetic and intuitive Pisces. </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65460462021-02-13T19:05:00-06:002021-02-13T19:20:04-06:00newspaper oracle #5,919<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/38cd77b8df0108bc35951e642d2aab0a2b8a64e9/original/8e19bc0481e0bfdbd90b20a849fa0175.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_none" alt="" /></p>
<h3>Your Horoscope for February 14, 2021</h3>
<p>Stars and Hearts </p>
<p> Run love through your heart – any form of love will do – and it blossoms. Mercury and Jupiter conjunct in Aquarius focusses on a friendly version of love, so plenty of pink and yellow roses will be exchanged amongst the Crimson Glories. As for passionate ties, they’ll be given to hyperbole and illusion, as if seen through a sparkly Instagram filter. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). Being close always has its unique challenges, though lately more so. While you don’t need any extra incentive to figure out how to be close, it adds sweetness to your journey. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Books tell one version of romance and witnessing real relationships tells another. But first-hand experience is the only way to really learn love, as the heart can’t be fed on second-hand knowledge. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You become aware of the stories you tell yourself about love, how you’ve known it, what you expect from it, what it should look like, how it should move through your life, and more. Keep or change these according to your goals. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). You have a big variety pack of love to share, a custom version for those close to you and even those in outer circles will receive something a little unique in every interaction with you. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). What’s important is that you move relationships forward without hesitation, over-thinking beforehand or ruminating afterward. Love warriors like you lunge forward in courage and faith. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The romantic traditions are so old, no one remembers or knows exactly how they came to be or what purpose they originally served, but none of that matter now, only that they are upheld. They are the glue of the group or relationship. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Feeling safe and entirely wanted allows you to bring your whole self to love. And when this is the case in a relationship of any kind, it ignites a magic spark that makes the relationship burn brighter than the sum of its parts. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Interacting in group settings give you perspective on love and relationships, even if this comes in the form of a group video or text. You’re at your most playful and attractive when performing for an audience. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Love comes alive in your world as you flex your mental and emotional muscles while fully inhabiting the moment. From a place of calm observation, you’ll find and seize opportunities for connection. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Use the element of surprise as you express what’s in your heart. This makes it fun for you too – you’re at your exciting best when you’re kicking things up a notch. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Oh the joy of reciprocal love! You’ll get the evidence that someone loves you back. Even better will be the feeling of delivering your own evidence of love and creating just the effect you were going for. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s much you want to do today and you can’t do it all, which is good news. You can pick just the things that make your heart beat faster and set yourself up for love’s thrill. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 14). You’re so attractive as you buzz with creative energy. You’ll get the resources you need to fully express a vision. The best part of this is slipping into a position to hire and help people. Your professional efforts will earn handsomely and your amateur efforts will net a wealth of knowledge, adventure and friendship. Scorpio and Aries adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 1, 44, 36, 28 and 11. </p>
<p> FORECAST FOR THE WEEK AHEAD: When you don’t know what you don’t know, it’s a bad position – confidently bad, but still bad. It spouts off like a cocky teen, leads to mistakes and baits the resentment of others who can see the foolishness of a worldview that assumes the world is small enough to view in its entirety, and completely comprehend at that. </p>
<p>When you, instead, understand and accept that there is much to learn and infinity more you will never know, it is a humble and uncomfortable position, if not downright frightening, and is nonetheless the position of the brave and the wise. Such a stance acknowledges the vastness of the universe, prizes curiosity and embraces the vulnerability that makes learning possible. </p>
<p>In these last few days of the Aquarius sun and Mercury’s retrograde, take stock of what you know while fully expecting your understanding to change at any moment, maybe deepening or maybe turning itself inside out. The same goes for what you know of relationships. The conjunction of Mercury and Jupiter has us assuming knowledge we don’t have and exaggerating that which we so have. It’s fun, though it will be interesting to see how we feel about things when the stardust settles on the end of the week. </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: Simon Pegg (2/14/1970) has many projects in the works at once now with several sequels from the Mission Impossible franchise, voicing characters from three different animated projects, and rumors are flying about a new Star Trek sequel too. Pegg, who is also a writer and comedian, was born under a brilliant Aquarius sun and Mercury and has two other significant air sign indicators of exceptional intellect and quick wit. </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65460422021-02-12T19:00:00-06:002021-02-12T19:00:12-06:00newspaper oracle exhibit #5,918<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/85514f628350737bd89ae8cc38327c033ca7faf5/original/7-of-sundays.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_none" alt="" /></p>
<h3>Your Horoscope for February 13, 2021</h3>
<p>Mercury Directional Change </p>
<p> This is the first full day of Mercury direct in Aquarius, where the current cosmic consortium includes Venus, Jupiter and Saturn. The planets are all traveling direct and this is one of the most straight-forward times when subtext often matches text and intuition speaks in surprisingly logical and clear signals. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). You know you’re doing the right thing for you if it happens to feed your soul even when it’s not feeding your wallet. As you give to others, you will be evermore fulfilled. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’re no stranger to being a stranger. As you visit the unfamiliar, you expect a certain inelegance to color your interactions, and in fact you welcome it as the evidence that you have something learn, and you’re doing it. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your business card is but a narrow definition of who you are and what you do. Titles are like keys that get you into certain doors. Once inside, you’ll expand to take up as much energetic space as feels appropriate to you. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). Arguably, your influence and creations are entities that outlive you. Today you’ll make sure of it. This you’ll do mostly unconsciously as you carry the intention of serving, helping and right action. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). The winds have changed direction. It is not necessary to learn all about this change. You’ll learn plenty by sticking your sail into the air and moving it around until something catches… then suddenly you’re off. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Standard agreements make sense to everyone and fit almost no one, perhaps because there is no such thing as a “standard person.” For the best chance at coming to a successful agreement, ask for and expect modifications. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Money starts out as well-printed but essentially meaningless paper that we, as a society and on the individual level, give rich meaning indeed through what we do with it. You’ll use your dollars in an inspired way today. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Those foggy feelings count for something. A phenomenon doesn’t have to be defined in order to be relevant to your mood or to how you contribute. Dare to push into formlessness and discover it as you go. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You could keep envisioning the dream that requires you to climb a staircase, ladder or mountain to get to… or, you could set your sights on an equally lovely scene located at an elevation within coasting distance. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You are pinning your happiness on something you could lose, but don't worry. You're in cosmic accordance. Happiness, beauty, infatuation, thrills of all kinds… the very nature of these states is, in a word, fleeting. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). It is said that you are only free if nothing holds you back. Also, things will tug at you – tethers of emotion, habit, perceived responsibility. It only counts as a limitation if it actually restrains you. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). As you tend to and spring for the details that are sure to impress, just be honest about how much of this is necessary. None of it, really. You could just show up as you are, an approach that is relatable and comfortable. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 21). Here come elated moments, disciplined change and shared interests forwarded. In a humorous cosmic twist, the money arrives after you’ve stopped waiting. Meanwhile, prizes untold come in surprising packages you wouldn’t have guessed could hold such gifts of feeling. Professional development in March. Scorpio and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 35, 22, 1 and 39. </p>
<p> FORECAST FOR THE WEEK AHEAD: In the first blushes of this intuitive Pisces season, and with the green light of Mercury guiding the higher Aquarian purposes, we have a chance to place our energy wisely and make excellent progress. So how do we know if a thing is worthy of our attention? Its attractiveness is a clue, though many attractions, because of their dangerous or time-wasting potential, are best noted and explored hypothetically, within the examination and thought experiments of an interior and private world instead of by interacting with the attractive force in real life. </p>
<p>As Mars and Pluto triangulate, people will stand behind their decisions because they have to. Their egos disallow any speculation. Smaller egos make for better decisions because there’s an objectivity available to those who are able to detach and process data through a lens that’s free of the distortions and particulars of personality, identity, tribalism, pride, etc. Other things that color decisions include feelings, morality, politics and more. Some of influences are useful and helpful and others are apt to stop progress in its tracks. </p>
<p>To make a decision based on who you were in the past is not advised. You could make a decision based on what you learned back there, but even that is thinking too small. When you instead base your decisions on who you want to be and who you are becoming, those choices will meet up with you in the future and feel, in that moment, like a natural and brilliant fit. </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: In eight seasons of “Game of Thrones,” Sophie Turner (2/21/1996) saw the character Sansa Stark from childhood pettiness through the tortures and duties of leadership. Pisces and Aquarius are strong influences in Turner’s natal chart, offering the intuition and social consciousness to suggest the actress has natural leadership qualities in real life. Her moon and Venus are in Aries, the sign of the warrior. </p>
<p>Write Holiday Mathis at HolidayMathis.com.</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65460412021-02-11T19:00:00-06:002021-02-11T19:00:02-06:00newspaper oracle exhibit 5,917<h3><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/ceda238f7b938bfd39b1d9275845ecafe57bde2d/original/a-large-bull-or-ox-1024.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_none" alt="" /><br>Your Horoscope for February 12, 2021</h3>
<p>Oxen New Year </p>
<p> Legend has it that the ox, a faithful servant of the Jade Emperor, would have won the Emperor’s great race to be the first of the earthly creatures, were it not for the cheating rat riding along on its head who jumped off and ran across the finish line before him. This Lunar New Year the ox, the second animal of the Chinese Zodiac, gets his due. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). Like an actor, you fulfill a role and the better you do it, the more the outside world can see a living, breathing character instead of its creator, hard at work. Parts of the real you will shine through – they are irrepressible. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Mutual comfort and confidence can be established just as soon as everyone relaxes. You may have to go first, as you are powerful in the situation and your chill-attitude will be contagious. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). When you’re kind to people who are kind to you first, it raises your opinion of yourself not at all, because that’s just the baseline of decency. But when you’re kind first, it gives you confidence regardless of what happens next. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). “The Dictionary of Obscure Sorrows” defines kenopsia as “the eerie, forlorn atmosphere of a place that’s usually bustling with people but is now abandoned and quiet.” You’ll know it again today </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). When you’re around people who constantly make you feel good, you want to be around them more often. You’ll make a connection with one such person today while avoiding less interesting prospects. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The idiom “drop your guard” may as well refer to the release of an actual shield. The accompanying psychological clank and clatter will be, on some level, audible today as someone decides they like you. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The rule of thumb is to only compliment people on the things they can control, like their manner and style of doing things and their choices. You’ll understand the value of such a compliment when you receive one today. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It will be tempting to worry over how your work will be received and the value judgments that go along with that. For now, just commit to a practice and do the work. Anything else you need to know, you’ll learn in good time. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Your reaction gives power to things. Sometimes it’s the one and only power source. Therefore, if you want a situation to discontinue, consider choosing the reaction of non-reaction. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). How you talk to yourself matters more than you think it does. The kindness of your inside voice is reflected in your outside voice, and the same goes for any other tone you choose with yourself. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). The minute you feel the need to impress, prove yourself or compete, pull back. In today’s instance, those who understand, value and need what you bring to the table won’t ask you to compete for your spot. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The world isn’t ideal today and it wasn’t totally great yesterday or seven hundred years ago, or ever. Luckily, the conditions have little to do with the heartfelt thing you must deliver to the world now. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 12). Your solar year is characterized by smoothness and grace. You’re in touch with your identity and what you want. The world responds by understanding and fulfilling your needs, which are largely unselfish. Since you so often endeavor for the good of others, you hardly need to prove or pitch yourself. Gemini and Cancer adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 26, 24, 18 and 40. </p>
<p> WEEKEND LOVE FORECAST: ARIES: Your taste and style get attention and possible imitation, which is the highest flattery. TAURUS: Don’t worry about dazzling anyone with your knowledge because what they really care about is how you make them feel. GEMINI: As for the hard questions you get asked, you don’t have to give them the answer, you only have to give them an answer. CANCER: Whatever happens on a date, you can turn it into something positive. LEO: The best position is when you love and want… but don’t need someone. VIRGO: Nothing works for all of the people all of the time, but you’re developing a nice bag of skills that work fantastic for you. LIBRA: You’re more likely to say yes to very small proposals and you’ll keep this in mind when it’s you making the proposition. SCORPIO: The social energy in your sector is going through a growth spurt. The energy you put into friendships will also stir up your love life. SAGITTARIUS: Music adds to the romance; it’s true even for singles. Tunes give you power, confidence and new energy flow. CAPRICORN: You do someone a favor. Suddenly, the door is open for new exchanges. AQUARIUS: Power and attraction are interlinked. As you increase your power, you become more attractive. PISCES: Who they are influences you much more than what they say. </p>
<p> COUPLE OF THE WEEKEND: Aquarius and Capricorn get a couple’s dance, stunning in the glow. It should be noted though that people in love this deep either make everyone around swoon or sicken. Aquarius wards against haters by being much too generous a spirit to find fault with, and Capricorn deflects the evil eye of jealousy by having such a loving, caring attitude toward Aquarius that one would have to be a monster to throw shade. </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65460302021-02-10T18:00:00-06:002021-02-11T17:09:55-06:00newspaper oracle exhibit #5,916<h3><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/6ca89f7d74efc133992240aaa51b882108d1b449/original/img-2680.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_none" alt="" />Your Horoscope for February 11, 2021</h3>
<p>Named by the New Moon </p>
<p> Unlike hurricanes and fearsome storms, lovely days that fall within the range of typical weather trends don’t get their own names – another instance of the natural human inclination to take gentle, good things for granted. If this fair day, which Venus and the new moon regard so kindly, were granted a name, it would be: Possibility. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). Keep things brief, especially conversationally. You’re captivating in this mode. If you've stopped talking but your audience is still listening, you have them! </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). While action is favored, too much business ruins the mood. Temper activity with bouts of lackadaisical daydreaming of sunny skies behind the faces you love so much. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s considered vulgar to acknowledge the business aspect of interpersonal relationships and discuss the financial end of beautiful experiences supposedly transcend such banality. And yet… everything has a bottom line. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). There is no more favorable aim today than the aim to lighten up. Shift a burdensome thought from your brain to the external world by writing it down, projecting it into a physical symbol, or sweating it away through exercise. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). One benefit of living a principled life is that the rules can simplify your thought process by eliminate dozens of small decisions in the way that “no wheat” or “no meat” eliminates an entire category of menu options. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Remote bits of personal history will pop to mind from out of the blue, likely called up by new information that speaks to the choice you made in the way-back. It wasn’t ideal, but you’ll do better next time. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The line between audacity and bravery seems fine until you take the origin of action into account. Audacious moves are made out of overblown self-regard while brave moves involve moving through fear in the name of what’s right. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). This day unspools like a good conversation, and you participate by relating unrelated ideas, going with the flow of tone, feeling and new information and sidestepping the hot-spots, triggers and danger-zones. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s hard to say why important life skills are typically left out of school curriculums in favor of classes that, arguably, have limited application in the average adult day. Nonetheless, you’ll fill holes of knowledge today. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). The reason that hard evidence carries more weight than personal testimony is that the fallibility of human memory, morality and prejudice is high, whereas a pictures and written contracts are far less corruptible. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Models sit in make-up chairs for hours, lawyers are paid to argue and doctors mix mostly with the minutia of illness. The actuality of glamorous or important roles is seldom as it seems, as you’ll personalize today. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’re firing on all cylinders and the realizations come one after the other. Write them down. These ideas are adding up to something big. Before you go to sleep tonight, ask your subconscious to work on tomorrow’s ideas. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 11). This year sees you on a mission to serve, in a small but meaningful way, a wide variety of people. Your multi-faceted personality allows you to make the connections that will bring understanding and support to the cause. You’ll be the object of attention and affection, which comes with responsibility and decisions. Scorpio and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 3, 1, 30, 15 and 24. </p>
<p> COSMIC QUESTION: "I have this Gemini friend who I worked with for three years. I helped her along in any way I could. I introduced her to many people and though our joint efforts did not always sell well, we were usually successful enough to please our boss. My friend began working with a different set of creative people and she had greater success than she did when she worked with me. Then she was promoted. Four months ago I was let go from the company. I'm struggling with many feelings of jealousy, hatred and resentment. I work harder than her. I deserve what she has. I think about this millions of times every day. How can I let this go and move on? Signed, desperate Leo." </p>
<p> You have a different skill set than your friend. Gemini is usually adept at networking and sometimes takes social risks that pay off. Leo's value loyalty, but it's her Gemini willingness to try new arrangements that helped her get ahead. The healthy way is to notice what she did differently from you and learn from it. Then put your focus on your own plan. Let the competitive spirit fuel the sweetest revenge you can extract -- success itself. </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: In addition to her many box office successes and numerous acting awards, the family status of ever-popular Aquarius Jennifer Aniston (2/11/1969) has been a matter of public interest to rival newsprint space taken by presidential elections, wartime events and asteroid collisions with Earth. If Aniston were actually pregnant as many times as rumored, she’d have more children than the old lady in the shoe.</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65445922021-02-09T18:00:00-06:002021-02-10T08:23:08-06:00newspaper oracle exhibit #5,915<h3><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/89a70b82008fcd4f961641c453d83e070c109060/original/img-2610.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_none" alt="" />Your Horoscope for February 10, 2021</h3>
<p>Thoughts for the Last Day of a Moon Cycle </p>
<p> Reality is a one-shot. What happens cannot change, but relationships will change because of what happens. The love exchanged in relationships is an entity. Love can overshine and outlast just about all else. Once given, love is yours, will not expire, and cannot be stolen from you. You can keep the love long after the relationship is no more. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). Because your pet peeves include things like lateness, last minute cancelations, the untimely return of calls and texts… you make special efforts not to commit such offenses yourself. It will be harder to stick with today. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You’ll be wise to let people know what you can really make happen because you don’t want anyone to have unrealistic expectations that involve you. It’s bad Karma. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). One of the best ways to build your relationship with yourself is to take on exciting challenges. You’ll be attracted to one today and it is guaranteed to increase more than just your self-esteem. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). You have a big attitude today pulsing with promise and potential. The best part is, it’s all is respectfully contained. You don’t need to posture or be louder than anyone else. You’re a quiet but powerful magnet for all you desire. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Try not to hold yourself to impossibly high standards. It’s a rejection of where you’re at right now, which is as good a place as any. Change usually executes many small steps before it leaps. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It’s appropriate to channel the energy of other people before you find that groove that’s all you. It takes time more than time to find your voice, it also takes action, mistakes and lots of “not that… how about this?” </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You’ve been shaped by wonderful, terrible, trying, fortunate and unusual happenings. You’ll be inspired to think about your story differently and learn to tell it to yourself and others in more empowering terms. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You’re starting to understand the role that could fit you better. You see it in your mind’s eye. One small action leads to the next and soon you’ll be leaning and living in such a way that makes your vision an inevitability. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). React a little slower than you think you should. It will give you a chance to really get what you’re reacting too – which is the underlying meaning, not the misdirection that’s going on at the surface level. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your choices are getting better aligned with the picture you hold for your future. A deadline of some sort will help you follow through with the trend. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Sometimes the action just gets stuck. It’s no one’s fault; it just happens. There’s no point in wondering what happened, just get out of the mud. Let go of something, add more throttle, or throw in a new topic for traction. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll expand an idea in a hyperreal direction, so beyond what’s normal that it’s almost a caricature. This eliminates some of the complexity and makes it easy for people to understand and connect. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 10). You know what you want, who you love, and who you’re willing to make sacrifices for. With these three cornerstones as the guiding principles of your schedule, your year goes off like sparklers. You’ll be saying “no” a lot. Through honesty, focus and self-possession, a positive and effortless transformation is underway. Leo and Libra adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 40, 2, 14, 18 and 39. </p>
<p> COSMIC QUESTION: “How can you close a karmic circle? Can I end a cycle of karma for my entire family, especially future generations? I’m a Pisces and I would think that if anyone could do it, it would be me, since I’m at the end of the zodiac and the most spiritual person in my family. I’m talking about abuse and trauma.” </p>
<p> When the abuse and trauma is no longer a focus, the karmic circle closes. You can end the karma for yourself and that impacts others too, but you cannot control the experience of those who may not be ready or willing to change their karma. </p>
<p>Also, consider that processing trauma keeps you somewhere in the karmic circle you’re trying to leave. While it may be necessary, there is a point of diminishing returns – then a point where processing does more harm than good, keeping a person stuck as a victim and a patient, forever healing, never healed. </p>
<p>Know when to step out of the circle and focus on what you’re building instead of where you’ve been. You’re right. As a Pisces your intuition will lead you there with grace. </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: Elizabeth Banks (2/10/1974) has so many blockbuster hits to her name that her schedule has often been filled with sequels to film franchises, see: “The Hunger Games,” “The Lego Movie,” and “Pitch Perfect.” Six air signs dominate Banks’s natal chart indicating a lofty IQ teamed with the attractive modesty of Venus in Capricorn. Look for the Aquarius star in the recent historic mini-series “Mrs. America.”</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65436732021-02-08T18:00:00-06:002021-02-09T09:50:51-06:00Newspaper Oracle exhibit #5,914<h3><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/ad52420f5af70f85c7db8b604d15f2bd99bf33b4/original/carole-king.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_none" alt="" /></h3>
<h3>Happy Solar Return to the OG Natural Woman -- thank you for the music Miz King!<br>Love Your Forever Fan,<br>Holiday<br><br>Your Horoscope for February 9, 2021</h3>
<p>Calm Forecasted by Capricorn Luminaries </p>
<p> When trouble calls, face challenges with valor and determination. And when there is no trouble, as is forecasted today by calm Capricorn luminaries, make the most of peace. This entails savoring the sweetness of life. It also entails readying yourself for the next trouble (which, to be clear, under no circumstances should you prematurely seek.) </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). The complex task you’re faced with today will require a combination of learning and instinct. By following established methods you can do very well, though it should be noted that the price of greatness is risk. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Because things work differently in different places and times, misunderstandings are more likely between people of different cultures and ages. These relationships will also be the source of deep and universal understandings. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). When you have the eye for it, as you most certainly do, beauty surrounds you. You see the single blade of grass growing straight out of the pavement. You see the sun glint from smiling eyes. It’s like it’s all there for your delight. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). While there are days when it benefits you to stay wide-eyed with your head on a swivel, this isn’t one of them. Narrow focus is needed. Put blinders on and march ever-forward. You can't stumble over a thing if it's behind you. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Pleasant circumstances are delightful but it’s the unpleasant ones that grow you. For instance, had you never been left to fend for yourself, you wouldn’t be this self-sufficient. You’ll love what you can accomplish alone today. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Being keenly aware of the habits of those close to you, you know how to cater to their preferences or disregard them strategically depending on the effect you’re going for. You’ve got game today. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your smooth manners provide shock absorbers and grease for the wheels of social interaction. You’re creative, spontaneous, sensitive and empathetic. Any friend of yours is lucky. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). People are more likely to remember those they perceive as a higher status, not because they are shallow social climbers but because humans are hardwired for climbing. In a new arena, making yourself memorable is key. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You’ve the opportunity to help a person you wouldn’t have expected would need it. It’s the start of the reciprocal altruism necessary to nurture beneficial relationships. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). In striving for harmony and happiness, it doesn’t hurt to brush up on the rules of etiquette, so long as you avoid the pitfall of monitoring other people’s behavior. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You respect people and their time and their privacy. They sense it, they trust you, and they tell you things you maybe wish you didn’t have to know. Discretion takes self-control, but it’s important. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You’ll be in a position to do a deal. It’s appropriate that some visiting, speculation, and negotiation will go down. It’s a dance. Three times back and forth is acceptable but not four. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 9). It won’t start out as a creative situation, but you’ll bring your visions and process to the picture and transform it. This is an attractive thing to watch and people will gather as you work your magic. Next come the investors. You’ll get a proposition in June. Your “yes” is not just an answer, it’s a line of action. Sagittarius and Virgo adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 8, 44, 41, 9 and 32. </p>
<p> COSMIC QUESTION: “I’ve been doing EFT tapping during the pandemic and I don’t know if it’s all in my head or what, but I think it’s really helped me with anxiety. Have you ever done it? What is your take? I’m an Aquarius and I try out new stuff a lot.” </p>
<p> Also known as psychological acupressure, EFT, or Emotional Freedom Technique, is a tapping technique founded by Gary Craig which calls on principles of traditional Chinese medicine, specifically acupressure, to manage the energy of the body through tapping on meridian endpoints found on the top of the head, temples, chin, collar bone, and throughout the body. Specific phrases are recited while tapping, targeting an emotional component of the physical symptom. </p>
<p> Thousands of people claim lifechanging results from this practice, which falls under the umbrella of “energy work” or “energy psychology.” Other energetic practices include breathwork, faith healing, reiki, light healing, magnetic resonance imaging and much more. </p>
<p> My take is, what works works. Aquarians like you typically appreciate the scientific aspects of phenomenon and EFT may fall short in this way. While there may not be empirically sound evidence here, why would there need to be if it’s working? Besides, open minded people who are willing to experiment are typically more fun and interesting, don’t you think? They have all the good stories. Thrilled for your healing! </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: Rock and Roll Hall of Famer Carole King (2/9/1942) is one of the great treasures of American music with seven top ten albums, including the iconic Tapestry which spent nearly six years on the Billboard Top 200 chart. Her natal sun, Mercury and Venus in musical Aquarius is accented with three grounded Taurus influences. Taurus rules the voice and the sort of earth rhythms easily accessed in King’s music.</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65425972021-02-08T08:23:46-06:002021-02-08T08:24:18-06:00newspaper oracle exhibit #5,913<h2><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/0e0f3b324df402e631d940bfb2e8208135317635/original/img-e7383.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_" /></h2>
<h4>Your Horoscope for February 8, 2021</h4>
<p>Message from the Solar/Mercury Conjunction </p>
<p> If Today had to write its social media handle, it would forego clever descriptors to instead claim “quiet, slow and humble” without so much as a zingy twist. Today doesn’t need more followers because Today is already the master of all influencers. Whether we get on board or not, Today always prevails, progresses and passes. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). When you’re not looking for the evidence of what people can and can’t do for you, you see others for who they are. Therein lies an entirely different kind of connection. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). This is one of those times when the idea of something is almost as good as the thing itself – and a lot less expensive. Indulge yourself in a visualization and save your money. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). If you feel the situation is hedging toward expectations you cannot fulfill, you’ll avoid it. In a healthy relationship, both people feel free. Togetherness is a choice, not a trap. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). History is not destiny, however, when using data to predict the potential of different outcomes, the past is all we have. You’ll use your knowledge of the past plus innovation and will to create something new. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Once again it’s time to update your standards. This is not to be confused with upgrading, as they were serving you just fine for a time, but times have changed (and how!) and the bugs must be fixed. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). When you find yourself in a pretty pickle, take out a fork and knife and start making sandwiches. The rule of thumb here: everything goes down better in bite sized pieces. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). You can value what you don’t understand, and that is the magnetizing effect of mystery. Learning more about a thing doesn’t necessarily make you want it more, and in fact demystification often lessens desire. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Don’t worry about learning who you are. When you’re in action, your own identity is the farthest thing from your mind. Focus solely on doing what needs doing and your character forms quite on its own. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It gets so cinematic you’ll be looking around for the camera crew – is this for real? Yes and no. The drama is heightened for effect by those who are fueled by people’s reactions. They’ll go until the attention runs out. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A certain amount of outrageousness will be tolerated and rules will be bent right to the edge of their breaking point. It’s all in the name of love. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). What didn’t work the first time, might not work the second or third time either, and yet you are undeterred. Pause to examine this. Why do you keep coming back? Does this problem need persistence or a change in approach? </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Everyone you do business with or socialize with will have their own expectations, each with a contagious influence and they all, at certain points, intersect. Your experience and awareness allow you to manage it. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 8). The maxim that stands you in good stead: Be nice to everyone every day. It’s actually easy for you and it brings all the bounty your heart desires. You’ll learn a group’s culture and customs, assimilate and rise through the ranks. It will seem as though you’re being constantly gifted, but this is just the Universe pay your due. Aries and Gemini adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 10, 46, 33, 38 and 5. </p>
<p> COSMIC QUESTION: "I was wondering if it is pre-determined that some people are very good with money and others are not. Because I have had no luck with money. When I have it, it doesn't last. I work hard, but I guess I play hard too. I wonder if things will ever change, or will I always have trouble with having enough. What do you think? I'm an Aries." </p>
<p> If you don't think you're good at money, there's a lot you can do to change your fate. Aries tend to be impulsive, and also they take risks that more prudent signs wouldn't want to take. The upside of this is that risk generates excitement. Also, without risk, there is no reward. But you know the downside. Risk takers will inevitably lose too. It's just part of the package. If you want to do better financially you can start by realizing that money is just an energy you exchange. What do you give that has value? When you focus on that you will more easily attract money and have a healthy attitude toward finance. Otherwise you are chasing paper money, which is a symbol and not the actual thing that makes a person rich. </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: On the heels of voicing multiple characters on “Family Guy” Seth Green (2/8/1974) moves on to voicing multiple characters, in “Star Wars: Detours” including Obi-Wan Kenobi. The prolific actor, writer, producer and voice-over artist is an Aquarius with a natal chart that is elementally well balanced and indicative of widespread talents, suggesting the kind of person who gets along with everyone and finds much to enjoy about life on a daily basis. </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65418932021-02-07T07:31:06-06:002021-02-07T09:10:53-06:00newspaper oracle exhibit #5,912<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/da535b9d000089c9ce592958b4916077e8d699fa/original/5df3f88d-ed87-4252-9d5c-d46c51e09793.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_" /></p>
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<br>YOUR HOROSCOPE FOR FEBRUARY 7, 2021</h3>
<p>Leaving Aquarius; a Lunar Conundrum </p>
<p> The conundrum is summed up by “Charlotte's Web” author E.B. White: "If the world were merely seductive, that would be easy. If it were merely challenging, that would be no problem. But I arise in the morning torn between a desire to improve (or save) the world and a desire to enjoy (or savor) the world. This makes it hard to plan the day.” </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). Because there is only one of you in all time, you were born with the responsibility of bringing that precious rarity to task, contributing the gem of your you-ness as purely as you can. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). As the investor of your time and money, you’ll put it all into goodness and in this you cannot go wrong. Whether it pays dividends or it’s a sunk cost, you’re fortified. Right is might. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It’s not the fight that defines you, it’s your grace in the fight, and hopefully your perseverance. Do not personalize the ups and downs. Events are not your identity. How you teach yourself to react is closer to who you really are. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). Systems matter more than goals. Most goals can’t be accomplished without them. And yet it’s pretty pointless to figure out a system that has no goal. The goal and the system need each other, so don’t set one without the other. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). If you think you're happy, you probably are. If you think you're rich, you definitely are. If you think you’re in love – also a no-brainer. But if you think you're wise, get humble (the wise always are.) </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The action that is most involving, satisfying and ultimately fruitful is that which is in the service of others and on their behalf. You’ll be most successful when you remind yourself of this several times a day. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). At times you have been resistant to feedback for various reasons; you didn’t trust the source to have the knowledge you needed, their style was mismatched to your receptivity, etcetera. That’s changed. Today’s feedback is golden. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Here comes the uncanny feeling that you’ve attracted the same person with a new face. You could be right. There’s an anchor that keeps pulling you back to the dynamic. There’s a chain to be broken. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Even the most beautiful dream can look uninspiring in dreary weather. Take a breath, put on the happy music and deal with the day to day while the sun burns off these low clouds. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). There are three simple rules to follow that will keep you in good energy. 1). No complaining, only figuring it out. 2). No fighting reality. Accept what is and go from there. 3). Lighten up. Lighter things rise. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Events that call up your inner fire are not the sort you’re keen to welcome, and yet they are very much the sort you look back on and thank your lucky stars it happened to you. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Looking back at the “bad old days” you’ll take particular notice of the remarkable hero of the story who carried you out of danger and pushed you into new circumstances. That hero was you, and it won’t be the last time. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 7). You’re a shooting star in the shape of a person. The massive energy that propels you is a reactive process having to do with timing, chemistry and a lack of environmental resistance. You’ll land in a new place, then the real work begins, putting together feel-good routines and establishing your role in the territory. Libra and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 21, 33, 38 and 40. </p>
<p> FORECAST FOR THE WEEK AHEAD: We’ll be subconsciously choosing the mental states to carry us into the Lunar New Year. In this time of the Ox, oddly, joy and vitality are states that, while very attractive, are not quite seductive. In fact, it is the repellant states like depression, laziness, sadness, frustration… that often have unexpectedly strong, though secret, powers of seduction. One reason is that they are familiar and safe. </p>
<p>As we set goals for the Year of the Ox, keep in mind that it is much easier to commit to a goal than it is to commit to the problems and roadblocks that come with it. It is in making that agreement to tangle with the opposition that you become a contender in the game. </p>
<p>If you are in a negative pattern and desire to transcend certain habits, moods and attitudes, key cosmic alignments will assist in your clarity and awareness. The sun and Mercury conjunction in Aquarius kicks things off. The new moon on Thursday urges how essential it is to recognize the benefits you are experience from staying stuck. If you decide to take a risk and move into a new state, Mercury and Venus show much more spectacular rewards on the other side. </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: If even your flops are successes, you just might be an Aquarius like Ashton Kutcher (2/7/1978) whose 2010 movie “Killers” recently made it to #8 on Netflix’s most popular movies list. Philanthropy is another way Kutcher is typical of his sign. Kutcher, whose natal sun, Moon, Mercury and Venus are all in Aquarius, has built homes in Central America, started children's foundations and raised big sums for charities. </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65411082021-02-05T22:39:54-06:002021-02-05T22:39:54-06:00Your February 6 Horoscope<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/98aa5704057315f4cd2b5ca831ba090f576db0c2/original/8166830859-1ac42e04eb-o.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_" /></p>
<p>Venus Time Warp </p>
<p> In the context of a movie, miles, days and other measures of space and time can be collapsed to tell the story of a lifetime. Movies not the only device to accomplish this miracle. As Venus aligns with Saturn and then squares Uranus, passion has a way of warping the space time continuum. Love’s plot, fantasy and memory run unbound. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). People really don’t appreciate the extent of what you do for them, but that’s actually better for you. The attention would only slow you down. Besides, you’re not doing it for them. This is your purpose! </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Everyone’s story begins in song. You’ll contribute in kind to today’s section of life, a bit of music to express what cannot be expressed as well any other way. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). It is tempting to, when moved by appreciation and affection, get hyperbolic. Just know that the largess of compliments of the “best ever,” “amazing” and “awesome” variety could be trumped by small, lovely specificity. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). You probably won’t be aware of what you think when you’re in the heat of the action but ponder later and much will come to you. Eventually this gap in timing between action and awareness will narrow significantly. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). If you had to make a documentary of everything in the universe that occurred today at noon, the runtime would be approximately infinite. Good thing you’re supremely focused on tracking just your own business. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). It will be a phenomenon like love at first sight today, except add a couple dozen to the equation, since the object of your affection will be a person, project or endeavor you've been exposed to quite a lot already. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Considering Mercury’s retrograde, today will be a remarkably straight-forward equation in which it’s easy to tell exactly how much you fun you will have. Participation correlates exactly with pleasure. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You love everyone differently, but there are definitely similarities in the way you show up for friends, family, community and romantic prospects. Those commonalities are giving you a widespread reputation for generosity. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). When you’d rather not know, it’s wise (and easy!) not to ask. When you’d love to know, but it’s none of your business, not asking takes enormous restraint and personal fortitude, which is what makes it the right move. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). You do what’s necessary. Sometimes it’s a trudge through the muck to deliver a message no one wants to hear. But today the delivery is as sweet and easy as a squirt of whipped cream to the top of a sundae. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Arguing can be fun when it’s a spar against a worthy opponent and it serves to sharpen both, regardless of the winner. Ill-matched arguments are as sad as any other unfair display. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). It is not every day that you find yourself at liberty to do as you please, write your ticket, or take the form and make it your own. That is why, when you can, you must. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 6). You’ll pose twelve questions and get six affirmative answers – enough to go forward and be prosperous. In general, do what gives you joy so you’ll have more to forward. The love you contribute confidently will be received and utilized to fortify the good fight of improving matters beyond what you will ever know. Aries and Taurus adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 4, 42, 9, 13 and 7. </p>
<p> COSMIC QUESTION FOR TODAY’S SQUARE OF VENUS AND URANUS: "How do you suggest dealing with the difficult square aspect?" </p>
<p>Considered the most troublesome of the major astrological aspects, the square occurs when two planets are at a 90-degree angle to each other. Unlike the opposition, which is also considered a “malevolent” aspect, there is no common ground to be found with the square. When planets square off against each other in the fighting ring, you have two options: head for the hills, or put up your dukes and get into the fight. Of course, most fights aren’t physical. The hardest ones are internal struggles to align ourselves with our own best interests and healthiest choices. Squares involving Mercury, Venus, Jupiter, and Neptune generally result in miscommunication, but are not as volatile as those with Mars, Saturn, Uranus or Pluto. The big exception to this is the Mars-Venus square, which is like throwing a scented candle onto the fire. It can make a mess, sometimes be just what a relationship needs to clear the air and infuse it with something lovely. </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: Bob Marley came into the world on this day in 1945 and at age 36, the “Ambassador of Third World” left the planet a musical legacy of eternal good vibes. Before he was a cultural movement, Marley was said to enjoy spooking people with visions of their future. With water sign energy conspicuously missing from his natal chart, perhaps the charismatic star relied on the rich social intuition of the sun and Mercury in Aquarius, the sign of tomorrow.</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65400642021-02-04T22:25:52-06:002021-02-04T22:25:52-06:00Your February 5th Horoscope<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/f07f6ec31fdb9fd29bd4e3b36442a744138ea7e4/original/img-2871.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_" /></p>
<p>The Overlap of Love and Time </p>
<p> All timing is collaborative. Therefore, even if you are working or playing solo, it will still be impossible to come up with an accurate timetable all on your own. As the goddess of love aligns with father time during this Mercury retrograde, expect your cadence to be strongly influenced by uncontrollable elements like other people’s schedules. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). If you accidentally turn right when you meant to turn left, do it twice more and suddenly you’re headed the intended direction. Bonus: you know more scenery than you otherwise would have. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). One of the biggest things you miss about being in large groups is the unpredictable sights and encounters that happen when a cross-section of people gather. You’ll get a version of that today. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You are more important to the action than you think. Your contribution may not seem quantifiable but it’s definitely real. There will be a different outcome because you were there. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). It’s not like you were planning on losing it over a wonderful development, but whatever “it” is, say goodbye! Don’t worry, all reason will be restored in time. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Socrates delivered words pertinent to your day when he said, "True knowledge exists in knowing that you know nothing. And in knowing that you know nothing, that makes you the smartest of all." </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). The first step in accepting responsibility is to recognize there is one. You’re usually the first to do it. Today you’ll pick up the ball that you didn’t even drop. Don’t hold it. Pitch it right back into the game. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Do not assume that people are acting out because of what they know or feel to be true. Behaviors unfold for various reason, including and especially group identity. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You aspire to understand how a thing works, but you’ll always have a special appreciation for the fun that comes out of these early these early moments of learning in which you have no idea what you’re doing. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). It’s not so hard for you to think of today’s interesting bit of trouble in a variety of ways. It’s like your scrubbing a toolbar of photo filters to find the one that gives the most appealing look to the thing. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). What do child stars and baby brothers and prodigies from all walks of life have in common with you today? You all know how embarrassing it can be to grow up in front of people. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). This is a game and you’re a player. Today it will require you to accept and abide by rules that are very different from those existing outside the confines of the game. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). There’s an implied statute of limitations on a lot of the bad things that happen to people. Compassionate supporters like you are willing to listen right up to the point in which it’s healthier to offer a tougher version of love. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 5). Your genius is in realizing what’s worth working on. Subtle tweaks of thought, tone and behavior will add up to blessings of magnitude. You will master a skill and be impressed how much this actually changes your circumstances. Good news in the family realm kicks off a series of celebrations and purchases. Scorpio and Sagittarius adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 5, 28, 1, 19 and 40. </p>
<p> WEEKEND LOVE FORECAST: ARIES: Love is not a sport but relationships still benefit from a bit of training, plenty of perseverance, and steadfast dedication. TAURUS: The days of wondering whether you’re going for the right thing are over. A new certainty takes hold. GEMINI: People who matter to you definitely influence your emotions now but ultimately, you decide your vibe. CANCER: To some degree your social persona varies depending on your company. Which one do you prefer? LEO: Don’t let downer ideas add gravity to the conversation. Once you get into a playful mood, the others follow. VIRGO: The effort you put into into socializing will pay off in your love life. LIBRA: Your self-care is for you, but others definitely give you props and attention for it. SCORPIO: The way you think you should be feeling isn’t how you’re actually feeling. Go with the actuality. SAGITTARIUS: One way to show love is to pay close attention to the other person’s strengths so you can give meaningful compliments. CAPRICORN: Things will turn out better than you imagine. AQUARIUS: Give them the gift of your mystery. PISCES: You know how they act with you, now find out how they act with ten other types. </p>
<p> COUPLE OF THE WEEKEND: Aquarius is known for a chill attitude and good social habits like thinking the best of people and minding one’s own business. An easy atmosphere of unpressured acceptance permeates the air around Aquarius, who invented the saying “It’s all good.” And yet, if anyone can get under the skin of Aquarius and ignite passion, irrationality and all that goes with it, Sagittarius will get the job done.</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/65389592021-02-03T19:13:23-06:002021-02-04T06:24:31-06:00Your February 4th Horoscope<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/703b35ade63af88cadf859cd5c898424c2f85f69/original/untitled-artwork.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_" />Medicine Moon </p>
<p> The Scorpio moon has a little something for everyone she interacts with including five major luminaries, so emotional pot-stirring is predicted. This recipe is not guaranteed to taste delicious, then again medicine seldom does. If it went down like banana pudding, you would doubt its potential to abate your symptoms. </p>
<p> ARIES (March 21-April 19). Part of you is focused on enjoying the current situation with appreciation, and a considerably larger part of you has an eye out for possibility, opportunity and change. </p>
<p> TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Today will bring plenty of evidence that the novelty-seeking portion of your brain is well connected with the septal nuclei sector, important to pleasure. You’ll find learning to be its own reward. </p>
<p> GEMINI (May 21-June 21). What’s coming up for you is uncomfortable at first, but that’s only a signal for you to adjust. Once you put it all in alignment you’ll be able to breathe easy. Use the mirror of another person, especially an expert. </p>
<p> CANCER (June 22-July 22). You’re willing to roll up your sleeves and get your hands dirty as long as you know the work is necessary and will pay off. But how far are you willing to go with no such assurances? That’s the big question of the day. </p>
<p> LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Your heart seems to have its own strategy, and one it prefers to keep on a need-to-know basis. It will be revealed to the rest of you in the form of a series of surprises. </p>
<p> VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). There are many ways to deal with an enemy. You can conquer or befriend – bribe, manipulate, sneak up on, seduce…. Matters are made trickier when you realize the enemy is within. </p>
<p> LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). There is no aspect of life that matters of attraction won’t play a part in. For instance, there’s a present need to shine a more flattering light on an issue, otherwise no one will be interested enough to get involved. </p>
<p> SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). No need to see the difficulties of the day as a hinderance. This is what builds your strength. It’s all in how you move the thing. Lift it with precision as you would a barbell. </p>
<p> SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Being enough is like having a certain color of hair. It’s a fact, and therefore would be a ridiculous thing to go around proving. You are enough. The burden of proof is not on you. Let observers figure it out on their own. </p>
<p> CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Your choice of vocabulary will speak volumes about you. It will tip strangers off to your background and indicate to all how much effort you’re willing to put into your interactions in general. </p>
<p> AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There’s a time for experiments, wandering and playful tangents and this isn’t it. Be like the mother duck get your ducklings in a row for the single file march forward. </p>
<p> PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Unlike the ancient Toltecs who practiced transcending their bodily senses to get a spiritual view the world, you will become even more in tune to what those five senses are telling you and touch on the extra-sensory. </p>
<p> TODAY'S BIRTHDAY (FEBRUARY 4). Your good luck vehicle doesn’t have actual wheels. It comes in the form of a problem and the guts to figure it out. Soon this develops into an adventurous project. You’ll have the love and teamwork that makes effort a pleasure. Spring brings professional rank and/or publicity that turns into financial gain. Libra and Capricorn adore you. Your lucky numbers are: 6, 13, 28, 44 and 8. </p>
<p> AQUARIAN SOLAR JOURNEY CHECKPOINT: The motivational speakers claim that before we can do anything, we must be able to imagine it. It can’t possibly be so! Babies don’t imagine walking, so much as see other people walking and then make the attempt unthinkingly and without envisioning themselves. (Arguably, babies are largely unselfconscious, and thus without a concept of “self” to marry to a vision of walking, were infants capable of such a thing.) This is a time when motivation will come to you as it did before you were even a year old – naturally through your exposure to people around you who are doing the thing already. For this reason, it is more important than ever to put yourself in an environment where people are enacting the behaviors you wish to call your own. </p>
<p>Around the halfway mark of the Aquarius solar journey is an excellent moment to check-in and make sure we are taking full advantage of the support this transit offers. No one is alone. This sun-signal is all about tapping into the collective consciousness and being lifted by the emergent qualities of a group. Just make sure it’s a group you would be proud to fit into. </p>
<p> CELEBRITY PROFILES: It’s rumored that Oscar De La Hoya (2/4/1973) plans to retire his retirement from boxing. The Aquarian "Golden Boy" has ten world titles, a gold medal, and a habit of breaking financial records in the sport of boxing. But for the Aquarius with Venus and Jupiter in savvy, competitive Capricorn, that's simply not enough – add pop musician, author, clothing designer, promoter and philanthropist to the list. </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/62288402020-02-26T14:41:03-06:002021-01-13T07:26:30-06:00Cloistered<p><a contents="This article" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="https://www.nytimes.com/1983/07/10/magazine/the-cloistered-life.html" target="_blank">This New York Times article</a> is very old but the fact remains that right now, somewhere in the world, thousands of intelligent, educated and spiritually connected women are praying for you. Indeed they have devoted their whole lives to the union of souls. I'm not particularly Catholic, but I get peace from the idea. May we all be open to receive the abundant spiritual grace intended for us. </p>
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<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/5ffc9f9c71bb00e60e365dc0425a5bf20f68e664/original/25.jpg/!!/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/61982492020-01-31T09:31:31-06:002021-04-21T12:10:15-05:00How to be Jealous and Why You Should<h2><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/ae122141ebf7f1a576ae4ba6cf6f1721dbdad8d0/original/3.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_" /></h2>
<h3>“Dear Holiday, how can social media be a positive thing in my life? Right now it’s making me cry because I can’t stop noticing how happy my exes seem to be, and yes I’ve been creeping on the pages of their current girlfriends to see what’s happening there too. Sometimes I think I run on nothing but coffee and jealousy. Help! I’m a Capricorn.” </h3>
<p>Ambitious Capricorn knows that you don’t get anywhere in life by being unaware of what other people are doing. But being too aware comes with its own set of problems, especially if you’re taking other people’s business personally, and in fact doing a line-by-line, them-to-you comparison on matters. Regardless, I think there’s an opportunity here for you here. </p>
<p>I used to regard jealousy as “the green-eyed monster” that is its common description, but I’ve come to develop a different relationship with this powerful emotion – one that allows for acceptance and even the welcoming of jealous feelings that get integrated into my self-awareness. Jealousy is no longer a monster to be blamed, rather jealousy is a friendly radiologist.</p>
<p>Jealousy is a well-trained professional who surveys the landscape, records its features and zooms in on the points of interest. Jealousy is the expert who can point right to the spot and say, “here’s your problem” or “here’s what’s amazing, right here.” </p>
<p>To blame the radiologist for the issues going on in the body would be absurd, though messengers get blamed all the time and jealousy lives with that unfair rap too, all because people don’t know what to do with this very specific information that jealousy is just passing on. They don’t understand how to use the valuable gift that jealousy brings to make themselves healthier and happier. Truly, what’s inside jealousy’s message can be turned into a blueprint for a more fulfilling life. We must, however, learn the language of jealousy, as it speaks in its own tongue. </p>
<p>Usually jealousy starts with an attraction. In passing, we get a glimpse of something that catches our eye like a shiny object, or rattles us with an attention-getting resonance. We tune in. The more we pay attention, the stronger it hooks us. The thoughts that run through our heads next are our interpretations of this attraction. We may think, “No fair!” “Why her?” “How did they dare?” or something like this. That’s not what jealousy told us, it’s just how we’re translating it. </p>
<p>What jealousy really told us is, “Look here. Does this remind you of something? This is in you or you wouldn’t have noticed it to begin with. This is possible. There’s something here for you. There’s something you can do that you didn’t know you could.” Try to think of jealousy’s message as more of an invitation to an appetite than a condemnation of what’s being observed. </p>
<p>If you are experiencing jealousy, congratulations. It means you're alive, you want, you hunger, and there is life out there for you to bite into and figure out. </p>
<p>To get the most out of the emotion, you'll probably have to turn the heat down on it. Get distance from the thing making you jealous. Step back, calm down, detach. Stop judging yourself for being jealous. All it means is that you're alive and so is your appetite for life. From a gentle state of mind, ask yourself questions along the lines of, "What appetite is this feeling pointing to? What need do I have that's not being met in my current life? What skill might I be able to pick up if I worked at it? What state of being am I craving that is so well represented in this situation?"</p>
<p>Journaling on these questions or working them out in conversation with a trusted person will begin to open the way for jealousy's findings to guide you toward making a remarkable difference in your life and well-being. </p>
<p>If this is a hot topic for you, please comment or reach out to me on Instagram or via email? I will write more indepth on it in the future, as I have plenty of experience with jealous LOL! </p>
<p>Love and Stars!</p>
<p>Holiday<br> </p>
<p>PS. I'm also touching on jealousy and more states of heart in the LOVE ZINE I'm writing now. Stay tuned!</p>
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<p> </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/60733482020-01-09T06:57:54-06:002020-10-20T05:16:04-05:00Leonard Cohen<h2><strong><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/56c430536bbf030ab7986ffcf7a59b02b7efbc8c/original/copy-of-lunar-cycle-transformation.png/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.png" class="size_m justify_center border_" /></strong></h2>
<p>Invite them to your email inbox, which I did when I signed up for this poem-a-day project <a contents='"POME"' data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="https://tinyletter.com/pome" target="_blank">"POME"</a> by Matthew Ogle. This moment of surprise art has been a defining spark of a morning routine that tips me careening into inspiration. Thank you Matthew Ogle! </p>
<p>Today's musing was from Leonard Cohen who, around 40 years old at the time of the writing, already seemed to be wearily identifying as artistically aged, though I suspect that turned around for him, or perhaps was just a passing mood, as the iconoclast kept on creating, releasing new works just weeks before his walk through the gate of this world. </p>
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<p>My husband worked musically with Adam Cohen, who is the son of Leonard Cohen, so it happened that I got to meet the sage and by “meet” I mean stand three feet down the sidewalk and watch a suited gentleman give familial attention to his son under a streetlight, silver hair shining against the ink of L.A. sky. </p>
<p>And because I long for an understanding that has always eluded me, I could recall many nights and mornings under sheets, and stolen minutes between classes and jobs sitting in a car or at a lunch table turning pages, fondling a poet's secrets, curled into the spirit of tea and oranges, teleported to a bohemian jungle of nylon stringed guitars where I tugged at dust from a cloak for the percipience of Jesus. </p>
<p>These imagined intimacies were to go unexpressed on the evening I lingered behind Leonard Cohen, inhaling the same night jasmine, rocking to the beat of his progeny, him wondering at a son’s art, me studying the shape of a poet’s head. </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/60599832020-01-04T08:45:57-06:002021-01-22T04:41:53-06:00Billy Collins<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/2ece73dd967e5d45ac3414600c97779fe00eaad6/original/untitled-artwork.jpg/!!/undefined/b:W1sic2l6ZSIsIm1lZGl1bSJdXQ==.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_" /></p>
<p>It is January four.</p>
<p>Yesterday I lost my glasses somewhere on a trail, doubled back, tripled back, quadrupled back to no avail. <br><br>I did all of my errands twice to four times because I got it so wrong first blush.<br><br>Yesterday I cried like I told myself I wasn't going to anymore, as though numbers changing at the end of a calendar year could somehow click me away from how I see it. Guess it doesn't work like that, maybe never has, though I don't regret leaving room for different magic. </p>
<p>This morning Billy Collins told me I was the crystal goblet and the wine. He assured me I wasn't the boots in the corner, suggested there was a possibility I was the pigeon on the general's head.</p>
<p>How did he know?</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/56668302019-03-02T18:43:55-06:002021-04-21T12:12:48-05:00Museum 21C<p><iframe class="justify_inline" data-video-type="youtube" data-video-id="YyWKEw-Jh2c" data-video-thumb-url="https://img.youtube.com/vi/YyWKEw-Jh2c/mqdefault.jpg" type="text/html" src="https://www.youtube.com/embed/YyWKEw-Jh2c?rel=0&wmode=transparent&enablejsapi=1" frameborder="0" height="180" width="320" allowfullscreen="true"></iframe></p>
<p>in nashville, tn,</p>
<p>magical </p>
<p>so worth the visit </p>
<p>why did it take me so long?</p>
<p> </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/56662592019-03-02T04:42:59-06:002021-01-12T03:10:31-06:00Korby Lenker<p>a favorite</p>
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<p>can't help it, <a contents="i feel what I want to feel" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="https://vimeo.com/291629444" target="_blank">i feel what I want to feel</a></p>
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<p>honored to be a part of Korby's MORSE CODE PROJECT and this song we wrote together turned out pretty FEEEEEllLLLLLY. Thank you BEEeee.</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/56478092019-02-17T19:21:07-06:002021-01-11T03:55:55-06:00Coelacanth<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/acbafabde1b3dff81389752c317c79455f6f1af3/original/latimer-2.jpg/!!/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></p>
<p>This one was inspired by <a contents="a fish story.&nbsp;" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/1930s-curator-discovered-living-fossil-well-sort-180967616/" target="_blank">a fish story. </a><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/1bf3458b7ec76eb634e4bd2b12f28861ceacd422/original/wake-up-and-exist.jpg/!!/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/56477342019-02-17T18:18:09-06:002021-04-21T12:10:15-05:00Poem Number One<p>I mean... it's just a theory, really.<img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/9b5222fa0775ba83a38f643d3f018c9381623cf9/original/doors-the-first-door-is-made-of-skin-the-last-door-is-double-paned-skull-then-hair-or-conjunctiva-then-air-or-breast-bone-then-light-just-pick-an-exit-what-you-ll-notice-about-the-afterlife-is-that-there-s-nothing-3.jpg/!!/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/56376672019-02-11T10:30:19-06:002020-11-09T22:56:14-06:00What is this "Artist Residency" all about? <p>Q: <em>What’s this “Artist in Residence” bit about?</em> </p>
<p>A: "Artist in Residence at Earth” is a private joke between me and me that has to do with the topic of jealousy. </p>
<p>I’ve always identified as a creative person but have often felt that for one reason or other I was unable to express or explore this part of myself to the extent I wanted to or thought I was capable of. So when I learned that there were people in the world, artists, who were given support, supplies, a space to do their work, money to live on, etc. I would see those words, “ARTIST IN RESIDENCE” at… Dartmouth or Towneley Hall or some famous museum or hotel… and, well, let’s just say certain fingers of mine would get really twitchy (read: middle) and I'd suddenly be punk-rock-moshpit-kick-off-level mad. You ever been that kind of jealous?</p>
<p>The fantastic thing about jealousy, and the reason it’s one of the great gifts of human emotion, is that jealousy can be an extremely direct arrow to our purpose and our talents, some of which are so secret to us we wouldn't know about them if it weren’t for our jealousy. Also, jealousy can teach us what we truly want (as opposed to what we’ve <em>been conditioned to want</em>, which is different, societal, and a lot of times inauthentic on the personal level. This is partly why humans are historically pretty bad at knowing what is going to make them happy.) So in a weird way, jealousy -- intense, maddening, hate-filled jealousy -- can be the most direct line that we have to our own happiness. </p>
<p>I'll just skip ahead in this story to the part where I realized that it was highly improbable that anyone, ever-ever was going to give me the prestigious position of "Artist in Residence." Lots of reasons. So many. Not the least of which is that most of my “art” is, in colloquial terms, “all over the place.” It spans mediums, defies genre, and quite often exists as a grandiose body of theoretical work, showing mostly on the gallery walls of my own mind. </p>
<p>Arguably, that fantasy-existence is still an existence. And you know what? I believe in it. I believe in my art. And sometimes I put it out into the world, and sometimes it makes me, or maybe even a few other people feel... idk, ponderous? Entertained? Momentarily, sensorily satisfied? </p>
<p>Anyway I no longer have to be jealous of anyone who has an ARTIST'S RESIDENCY because… and this is big people, drum roll maestro!.... </p>
<p><strong>I, Holiday Mathis, have been generously self-granted, and have graciously accepted the position of Artist in Residence at Earth.</strong> </p>
<p>Please hold your applause until all the names have been read. </p>
<p>Yes, I’m talking to you. Do you identify as a creative? Do you need support, resources, a soft place to land your artist’s soul? </p>
<p>Add your name to the following certificate:</p>
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<p style="text-align: center;">click to download your own printable! </p>
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<p style="text-align: center;">I look forward to seeing what this new position brings!</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">WITH LOVE!</p>
<p style="text-align: center;">Holiday</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/52296292018-05-11T17:46:28-05:002021-01-22T00:41:28-06:00Transcript of Original Interview...<h2>Q: What's the story? </h2>
<p><em><strong>Worst idea ever</strong></em>…I moved to Los Angeles without money or skills and was trying to make it as a waitress, but you might be surprised at how difficult it really is for some people to move up from the cashier position. By some odd stroke of magic, a roommate’s girlfriend saw a note on her college bulletin board (this was pre-internet) about a horoscope writing job. The instructions were to send samples to a P.O. address, so I borrowed a computer and got to typing. </p>
<p>I don’t even know what made me think I could write horoscopes except that I had read a trillion of them in Cosmo and Seventeen mags. I guess my sample was ok because I got a call telling me to write more of them for such-and-such dates… I immediately went out and bought a computer on credit. I was a complete luddite (pathetic! But this was 1991.) I worked through the mail, sending in floppy disks and getting a checks in return from a “Linda Twitchell.” I didn’t ask questions. After struggling so hard to survive Los Angeles (it was a moldy bread meal situation, no exaggeration) I felt like the queen of Hollywood to be able to afford gas and groceries in the same week. </p>
<p>About two months into the arrangement “Linda Twitchell” called and said she wanted to meet me. She was looking for a personal assistant. I drove up to her house in the Hollywood hills and was legit-glamour struck by the gorgeous blonde woman who opened the door of her white mid-century modern style house overlooking the pool and, well, I guess I have a trustworthy vibe because within 30 minutes she gave me the keys to everything… house, pool gate, post office box. I thought these sorts of things only happened in movies and to other people. </p>
<p>As it turned out, “Linda Twitchell” was a pseudonym for “Joyce Jillson” who was an astrologer to the stars and best-selling author. Joyce had been an actress on Broadway, television and movies. I had read her hilarious book “Real Women Don’t Pump Gas” when I was a kid. And she was, at this time, a syndicated newspaper columnist. I was her ghost writer without having any inkling that something I had written was being published in papers all over the world. </p>
<p>Have you guessed that writing horoscopes en masse is no easy gig? It was too much for one person to keep up with and Joyce had several writers helping her at the time. My value to the operation seemed to be mainly willingness and desperation. The other writers were much more experienced and talented than I was, but I was the one who always there and game. She figured out that I really liked writing and used that. It was almost like I “got” to write the column when my personal assistant work was satisfactory. </p>
<p>After a few years, the other writers fell away and it was just me writing the column. I worked for Joyce Jillson for 13 years, until her death in 2004, at which time the column assumed the name Holiday Mathis. </p>
<p>The column averages 7,500 words a week. It’s about 900 words for each day of the week (which includes 12 horoscopes, a today’s birthday, an astrological question, an introduction heading and a celebrity birthday) and then another 1,200 for the week ahead. </p>
<p>At this point, I’ve been writing the column as Holiday Mathis for over 13 years. That’s an average of 390,000 words per year times 13… That’s 5,070,000 words published as Holiday Mathis and at least3,000,000 ghost written for Joyce Jillson. Let’s round that down to 8 million words. </p>
<p>To give some perspective on what 8 million words is, War and Peace clocks in at 587,287. The King James Bible is 783,137, not including the dedication from your Aunt Marge. All of the words in the seven books of the Harry Potter series add up to 1,084,170. And you can add all those books together and you’re not even up to 2.5 million. </p>
<p>Perhaps a more serious, talented or trained writer might find these numbers depressing. I have published over 8 million words, and what do I have to show for it? No best seller or movie version of the work. Not even a Wikipedia page. I make a modest living and I have never gone on an extended vacation. The horoscope deadline is every week. The only time I was able to get ahead of it was only by about 4 weeks… I busted ass because I was pregnant and hoped to free up some maternity time. </p>
<p>All of this is, of course, perfect. I am so fortunate in spite of, or perhaps because of, the relentless nature of this work, which I have come to see as a spiritual practice. I am like those monks who create sand mandalas to be briefly enjoyed by the passersby and tossed to the river at the end of the day. Well… I mean… my work isn’t intricate and colorful and gorgeous like that. And trust me, I ate a lot more than yak’s milk for breakfast. But I’m doing my best here, what do y’all want from me? </p>
<p>Everything beautiful is temporary. Not everything temporary is beautiful. But the fact that nobody is going to care about it tomorrow, or even an hour from now, that’s liberating. I can tryto make something intricate and colorful and gorgeous. Maybe I’ll succeed in some small way. </p>
<h2>Q: Is there a formula? </h2>
<p>It’s more of an intention. I want to create a tiny poem for each sign. (The irony is that I suck at poetry, pretty sure I don’t even understand it, and yet I have been known to send utter crap into The New Yorker just to get the prestigious rejection letter. I like seeing my name in that font. Hey, I never said I was any good at any of this! But I digress….) </p>
<p>My intention is your tiny poem -- nothing too profound, not every day at least, because if everything is profound then nothing is. But it’s some kind of small delight for you. A candy snack to set the day on a sweet note. A personal nudge toward levity or introspection or fun or kindness or wisdom. A reminder of what we’re doing on this planet together, all under the same stars. </p>
<h2>Q: What about astrology? </h2>
<p>The astrology is a given. I read the ephemeris and offer an interpretation. I used to do this like student reciting from a textbook but after years and years (and years!) the symbols have come alive to me in a different way. They are characters. Big Daddy Jupiter and the Venus the strumpet, or maybe she’s in her maternal mode, wearing a gown by Virgo… or a pantsuit by Capricorn. The symbols are playful invitations to do my best… they are chiefs in my pantheon of muses. </p>
<h2>Q: Inspiration? </h2>
<p>The single best thing about my job is that allows me to reach far and wide, searching for inspiration. There are no boundaries! No subject that can’t help me! My podcasts overfloweth, my library card is stuffed and popping, my internet search history is phantasmagoria! </p>
<p>Let me tell you about where I have been this week. </p>
<p>I have been to the 12 black holes of Sagittarius. (Yes, I know there are 10,000 more of you somewhere!) I have swung around the Infinite Monkey Cage with Brian Cox, I’ve been to Marc Maron’s garage talking with Bill Hader about “Barry” (I’m working on my Henry Winkler crush.) I was in the “Hidden Brain” of Shankar Vedantam learning of the peaceful effects of a radio soap opera in Rwanda. I revisited the polka dot world of Yayoi Kusama, I checked in with Austin Kleon and went through the syllabus of Lynda Barry. I learned new beauty products and curse words from Samantha Irby, swung back to the art collection of Steve Martin, relied on the advice of the divination text of Zhou yi, I let Matthew Ogle break my heart with those damn poignant “Pomes” he keeps sending to my inbox. I swallowed what Kant had to say, laughed at the puppies in my living room, absorbed the advice of the former pick-up artist turned conversation coach Wayne Elise, hung out with Tricia Bobeda and Greta Johnsen on the Nerdette podcast, studied “The Hidden Life of Trees,” got particularly entangled in the fungal network, lost sleep over the thought of talking mushrooms, then remembered something I learned in the basement of the Scientology Celebrity Center and began comparing it to Buddhist theories as told by that Zen YouTuber …. </p>
<p>Seem random? </p>
<p>Heck yeah it's random! As random as the Big Bang. As random as whatever is getting sucked into the supermassive black hole of Sagittarius A right this minute (25,640 light years ago.) As random as my birth! </p>
<p>I’m sure a versed-science writer such as yourself is well-aware that humans are notoriously uncomfortable with randomness. Our brains have evolved to filter out most of it, so all that gets through are the threats, the changes, and a small amount of “other” which we are compelled to make order out of… look for a pattern, come up with a theory, construct a narrative, dig into a belief about… </p>
<p>I am just like everyone else, bringing all I know into looking for the pattern. The pattern I’m looking for in the context of the horoscope column is one that will help people settle in to a positive feeling about the day. One that will make people feel seen and understood. Make them feel like they belong in this cluster of humanity under one sky. The pattern I’m looking for is one that will make you turn up the corners of your lips. For the love of stars, I’m only trying to make you smile. </p>
<p>Besides, if I stuck exclusively to Greek Mythology, I’d alienate the readers. They don’t live there. They live where I do… in cities or suburbs with noisy neighbors and irritating family members and supermarket lines and crowded commutes and complicated love lives and children and bosses and the constant knowledge that our species has become the main pollutant of the planet… </p>
<p>Wait… let’s get back to the smiling! </p>
<h2>How do you filter all that random inspiration into the actual words of the column? </h2>
<p>The short answer is, I don’t know. </p>
<p>As a writer yourself, you’ve probably at times had the sensation that you’re not even doing it. The… where did that come from?thingy. There’s a lot of that sort of channeling. Then there’s the fact that turning in this column is how I buy food, and I like to eat. That helps. I don’t ever have writer’s block – I don’t even believe in it, because I can’t afford to believe in it. </p>
<p>I will admit that the muses favor me. </p>
<p>I believe the muses favor me for the same reason that Joyce Jillson did: I’m desperate. I’m game. I show up. </p>
<p>Ok Christie, I hope this helps for what you need. I appreciate your interest and the excuse to ponder my work for a second like this. I really hope you don’t throw me under the bus. (A serious science journalist interviews an astrologer, what could go wrong?) hahaha. Ha? </p>
<p>In all seriousness, I wish you success and fulfilment in your journey under these stars, </p>
<p>Holiday </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/52292712018-05-11T14:58:51-05:002020-11-16T23:50:41-06:00Interview with a Science Writer<p>The science writer Christie Aschwanden wrote an <a contents="article about me.&nbsp;" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="http://www.lastwordonnothing.com/2018/05/11/i-know-astrology-is-bullshit-but-i-cant-stop-reading-my-horoscope/" target="_blank">article about me. </a>And I love it! The title made me laugh hard.</p>
<p><a contents="" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="http://www.lastwordonnothing.com/2018/05/11/i-know-astrology-is-bullshit-but-i-cant-stop-reading-my-horoscope/" target="_blank"><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/a8904d7645a4b91272a4374fcc273cb8b4776cb5/original/screen-shot-2018-05-11-at-2-57-32-pm.png/!!/b:W10=.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></a></p>
<p>When she asked for an interview I thought, <em>a science writer interviews an astrologer, <strong>what could go wrong? </strong></em>Then I did it anyway, because most decisions I make I just do by purely feel. </p>
<p>What about you? You decide things through feel, or do you reason it out?</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/50605752018-02-04T06:35:32-06:002021-04-21T12:08:21-05:00Don't Get Burned!<p>Please enjoy the Cosmic Wonder Newsletter for this week: <a contents="HERE" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="http://mailchi.mp/224af1022383/first-stars-of-the-year-198693" target="_blank">HERE</a></p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/50433592018-01-25T13:17:36-06:002021-02-26T20:59:46-06:00How to Write a Love Letter in 12 Easy Steps<p>It’s an age old tradition. As long as writing has been around, so have love letters. If there is a more touching gift than the articulation of one’s amorous feelings in a form that can be held and kept as proof, it would be hard to find. And it would cost a lot of money. So save yourself a few bucks and write a love letter. It could very well be an item your beloved will cherish for years to come. </p>
<p>Here’s how in twelve easy steps:</p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step One: </strong></p>
<p>It starts as all things should start – with the “why” of it. State the purpose of the letter so you can set up an accurate expectation of what is to come. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>Dear Jean, </p>
<p>I’m writing you this letter because I’ve gotten to a place where I can’t imagine my life without you in it. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>Dear Avery, </p>
<p>This letter is to tell you my feelings have changed. I can’t be just friends with you. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>Dear Taylor, </p>
<p>The reason I’m writing is because you’ve made me so happy in these last few weeks and I thought maybe you’d like to know that. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Two: </strong></p>
<p>Set the scene. Be specific. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>I was eating sour dough toast for breakfast yesterday and I realized that the thing I was most looking forward to was seeing you later in the day. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> I drove by your freeway exit and it almost made me cry. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> You left your sweater at my house and I was happy because I knew you’d be back for it. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Three: </strong></p>
<p>This is the “what I notice about you” part. Easing into it here… </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> I notice you have three kinds of laughs – one for when I’m really funny, one for when you’re really funny, one for when you’re just being nice. All glorious. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> You look better in blue than anyone I’ve ever seen in blue. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>I like how you avoid all the bad topics because you’re such a positive person. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Four: </strong></p>
<p>History. Give a little back story, or tell the story of the relationship thus far. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>I’ve really not been the same since we met in math class. I now know about variables, coefficients and the really terrible distraction of how shiny your hair is when you sit next to the window. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>I never expected that I’d meet anyone special on a city bus. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>When Janet set us up, I was really skeptical, so it was pretty cool to learn that she has excellent taste in people. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Five: </strong></p>
<p>The change. What happened to make it go deeper? </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>I figured when my cat jumped on your head and you didn’t even get mad that you were like a Zen master or something. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> It was that boring day at work. Something about your smile made me want to linger at a soul-crushing job. How do you do that? </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> Honestly, yesterday’s traffic was the breaking point. I’m sick of commuting to your house. We should live closer/together. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Six: </strong></p>
<p>The list of compliments. All the things you see. All the things you like. All the things. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>You smell like sandlewood and soap. Dogs love you. You’re hilariously bad at chess. You spend more money than you have just to take me out. You can dead lift a refrigerator. You’re the top score on dragon ball, no one can beat you. You have the cutest feet. You’re ambitious. You’re weird, in a good way. You drive too fast. You’re cuddly. You love the number eleven just like me. </p>
<p>Get it all down, even the cringe-worthy, ridiculous things. You’ll edit later. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Seven: </strong></p>
<p>What’s in it for you? What are your feelings? What do you want? </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>I’ve been a mess thinking that you might move to Rhode Island. I want you to stay in Oregon. If you stayed I would make it so worth your while. I’d tell you every day how beautiful you are. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>The thought of you is so electric, I feel like my brain’s going to blow a fuse. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> I want to hold your hand through the scary parts of the movie. I want to hold your hand through the scary parts of life. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Eight: </strong></p>
<p>Wrap it up. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> What I’m trying to say is… if you move to Rhode Island, I’m going to have to move with you. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> I know now that we can’t be friends, unless we’re the kind of friends who are married. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>I just want you to know my feelings. Also, we should date. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Nine: </strong></p>
<p>The sign off. Not to be taken lightly. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>Your fan, </p>
<p>Frank </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>As ever, </p>
<p>Emma </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>Always and forever, </p>
<p>John </p>
<p>Although, is there something more creative you can think of? This part’s significance far outweighs its word count. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Ten: </strong></p>
<p>The P.S. </p>
<p>The post script is an opportunity -- often it’s the very best part of the whole letter. Unless there’s a P.P.S. Those are usually a zinger. </p>
<p>P.S. No pressure. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> P.S. Or not. </p>
<p>P.P.S. JK! ;) </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example: </span>Fluffy the cat wants to know when you’re coming back with more of that sweet cat nip stuffed mouse action. </p>
<p><span style="color:#e74c3c;">Example:</span> Rhode Island. Really? </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Eleven: </strong></p>
<p>Edit. Yes, the essence of good writing is re-writing. If you have the time, you might want to wait a day or two before you do your edits because you’ll see it differently after 24 hours. </p>
<p> </p>
<p><strong>Step Twelve: </strong></p>
<p>The presentation. </p>
<p>Handwritten is the best. Something printed is the next best. Cool paper is a plus. Do yourself a favor – don’t put your heart into something and then send it digitally. Love letters aren’t for emails. They aren’t for texting. Love letters are a gift from the heart, worthy of a physical embodiment. Give ‘em something to hold and keep. And blackmail you with later.</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/50223342018-01-13T14:34:32-06:002020-10-20T02:40:56-05:00First New Moon of the Year <p>This week's <a contents="COSMIC WONDER NEWSLETTER" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="http://mailchi.mp/849b8bbbd504/first-stars-of-the-year-186757" target="_blank">COSMIC WONDER NEWSLETTER</a> includes a list of my favorite apps -- in celebration of Venus in Aquarius. </p>
<p>and if you want your weekly forecast in your email inbox, do it <a contents="HERE" data-link-label="file downloads" data-link-type="page" href="/file-downloads">HERE</a></p>
<p>Luv!</p>
<p>h</p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/50189012018-01-11T14:20:55-06:002020-09-30T01:47:28-05:00Capricorns Rule!<p>Hope you Capricorns are having a stellar solar return...</p>
<p>Here's something for you from <a contents="Rock Your Stars, Rule Your World" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="http://amzn.to/2ihCs9p" target="_blank">Rock Your Stars, Rule Your World</a>. </p>
<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/3e860e0b724d630ae2281e651d91009454bae007/original/1.png" class="size_l justify_center border_" /><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/01cfb8d9a019d82a40d56f7f7419631bfb146c0d/original/2.png" class="size_l justify_center border_" /><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/e9918361d2ccadfb15d5ec83a8c200f2411020eb/original/screen-shot-2018-01-11-at-2-12-49-pm.png" class="size_l justify_center border_" /><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/488121d89962322926c0f85899919c83fe2a1a11/original/3.png" class="size_l justify_center border_" /><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/ad5da18f04a585b4a86b08fef372eec591900101/original/4.png" class="size_l justify_center border_" /><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/159c19dcad3fe3cfb8cf115bd3d49a6647c0a1a6/large/5.png" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/50124342018-01-08T08:44:00-06:002020-11-18T01:18:32-06:00Sun and Venus Conjunction in Capricorn<div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;">
<iframe allowfullscreen="true" class="b-hbp-video b-uploaded" frameborder="0" height="266" mozallowfullscreen="true" src="https://www.blogger.com/video.g?token=AD6v5dwJLE0ltgYAhLeATd7MxtRylqKM_-JYoS10L9jvRLAz2bpBY9AqX1T5ZQwiSEAX1cfKzoaCMr25fxIRBCg6HQ" webkitallowfullscreen="true" width="320"></iframe> My sister Vicky just showed me some new software -- Adobe Spark Video -- and I messed around a bit to give you a 48 second forecast about the next 48 hours. For me, 2018 will be the year of learning and tinkering (so say I, but we'll see what Destiny has to say about, as she often gets the last word!) Anyway, sending love this Solar/Venus conjunction!</div>
<p> </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/50023332018-01-01T21:52:18-06:002018-01-01T22:25:45-06:00Your January Cosmic Calendar<p>Happy 2018!</p>
<p>I made you a calendar! </p>
<p>Moons, planet transits and other fun... day-by-day... here's January! </p>
<p>and you can download January free <a contents="HERE." data-link-label="2018 cosmic calendar" data-link-type="page" href="/2018-cosmic-calendar" target="_blank">HERE.</a></p>
<p><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/4775256d83855b00db15292d98b1ae3814f92102/original/1.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/49987442017-12-29T11:56:53-06:002020-09-13T23:27:57-05:00Your First Horoscopes of 2018<p><a contents="" data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="http://mailchi.mp/1a20a272001f/first-stars-of-the-year-179293" target="_blank"><img src="//d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/80fdf0705bb4a56486d40b906dad6e1a8d5ba4bc/original/cosmic-wonder-3.jpg" class="size_l justify_center border_" /></a></p>
<p>Happy new year and <a contents="here " data-link-label="" data-link-type="url" href="http://mailchi.mp/1a20a272001f/first-stars-of-the-year-179293" target="_blank">here </a>are your first stars of the 2018! </p>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/49708412017-12-10T09:45:00-06:002020-10-19T23:51:40-05:00How to Say No in the Nicest Way and Make Them Love You Even More for It <div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-g5aRY_tQa5g/Wi1WXHLmfAI/AAAAAAAAAzo/FCZmQ0KtVVgvIPHIgltwJZ_7hqZz4WTQQCLcBGAs/s1600/Screen%2BShot%2B2017-12-02%2Bat%2B2.11.15%2BPM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img src="https://1.bp.blogspot.com/-g5aRY_tQa5g/Wi1WXHLmfAI/AAAAAAAAAzo/FCZmQ0KtVVgvIPHIgltwJZ_7hqZz4WTQQCLcBGAs/s320/Screen%2BShot%2B2017-12-02%2Bat%2B2.11.15%2BPM.png" class="size_orig justify_inline border_" height="320" width="250" /></a></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 18.0pt; text-indent: .5in;">Once upon a time in Hollywood, there was a studio executive named Sherry Lansing who rose to one of the most powerful positions in the film industry and became legendary for, among other things, the particularly classy way she turned people down. It is said that she made people feel so acknowledged and important that even when she was giving the news that the show was pulled, the movie wasn’t going to get made and the whole crew was fired, the bad-news recipients still walked out of her office feeling like something very cool had just happened. Now we all can’t be Sherry Lansing, but we can certainly aspire to such graciousness.<p><span style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Sensitive people and Empaths find it especially difficult to say no. They already feel responsible for the other people’s emotions without being the direct cause of them. Saying no can in fact be so difficult for sensitive people that they just don’t do it. They instead say yes to things they have no interest in, no benefit to derive from, no desire at all to be a part of. They say yes because it’s just too hard to say no.</span></p>
<p>Sometimes this works out well! People broaden themselves by doing things they don’t want to do. For instance, if everyone only said yes to eating what they knew they liked, kale wouldn’t even be a thing.</p>
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You should still be able to say no, whether it’s good for you or not. And if you went around saying yes just because you were afraid to hurt someone’s feelings, you’d be into a lot worse than kale. So let’s take away the part where the feelings get hurt so that you can say no with great ease. Sherry Lansing has yet to give up the secret recipe to her particular brand of social grace, and until she does, here are some guiding principles for those who seek mastery in the art of declining. <p><b style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Always project yourself as having a lot going on.</b></p>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 18.0pt; text-indent: .5in;"><p><span style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Every no is a yes to something else. When you pick strawberry ice cream, maybe you’re technically rejecting the vanilla and mint ice cream but nobody thinks of it that way. When you focus your mind on what you’re saying yes to, you’ll have the energy of choosing instead of the energy of rejecting.</span></p></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 18.0pt; text-indent: .5in;"><p><span style="text-indent: 0.5in;">Bottom line, you have a right to fill your time with whatever you want, and other people don’t have the right to know what that is. There are those who will act like they have a claim to your hours and your privacy – well, they are the ones being presumptuous, not you. You don’t have to make a big deal about this but just knowing in your heart that it’s your right to decline without reason will empower your position.</span></p></div>
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<p> You can opt-out of an idea and opt-in to the person proposing it. Make it clear with a lot of affinity and warmth that your decision to answer in the negative is only because the idea isn’t a good fit for you, even though the person presenting it is right up your alley. It helps when you genuinely like people. Make a habit of finding lots of reasons to like people and this vibe will come naturally to you. They'll feel your acceptance without you having to say much. They’ll soften around you and they’ll decide not to take offense when you can’t do everything they want you to do because they’ll feel at their core that you really like them.</p>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 18.0pt;"><p><b> </b>Marketers call it the Law of Scarcity: people want what they can’t have. If something is rare, it is perceived as having more value. If you decline most offers, the few that you accept will feel very special indeed. They will cherish your time and crave your approval. On the other hand, saying yes to everything devalues what you have to offer. So you’re actually doing everyone a favor when you say no often. Your building mystique and excitement around you, making your company into a prize. </p></div>
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<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: 18.0pt;"><p> No one is born graceful, not even a prima ballerina. Like physical grace, social grace takes practice. Many hours go into building that core of strength that is the essence of grace. And you’ll never get practice in saying no by agreeing to everything. For this reason, “no” should be a daily habit of yours and just as easy for you to say as “yes” is. I hope these tips empower you to make the choices that best represent what you really want to do with your one precious life! </p></div>
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<p>Friendship with the highly sensitive is sweeter for its depth, more fun for its specificity and trickier for its complexity. Then again, you just have to know the rules – here are three. </p>
<p>No lumping.<br><span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">One easy way to keep track of people is to categorize them. They are your nearest and dearest… the people from the gym… the ones from the office… etc. And this works super well in theory, but in real life people are not categories. They are not the extras in the movie starring you. They are individuals who deserve and appreciate specific attention. Sensitive people will not happily stay in a relationship in which they feel categorized instead of cherished for the unique individuals they are.</span></p>
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<p>Discretion please.<br>It's <span style="text-indent: -0.25in;">a crappy fact of digital reality that you can pretty much track what anyone is doing without you these days. You don’t have to be a highly sensitive person to get utterly bummed out when you scroll through your feed and learn what you weren’t invited to. You might not believe this, but rumor has it that there’s this very cool and mysterious breed of people who prefer to keep their social lives on a need-to-know basis and will be especially mindful not to broadcast events that might make dear ones feel left out. Those people are called Real Friends. If you’re extraordinarily empathic, sensitive or introverted you should find people like this and hang on tight.</span></p>
<p>Be a volley baller, not a vacuum.<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span><br>Empathetic people do tend to have more patience for humanity than others. Sensitive people attract those who most need a kind heart and a listening ear. But a friend who soaks up all the love and attention and never returns the serve… well, it gets old. And the thing is, an Empath will put up with it for much longer than anyone else will. There are a few good reasons for this. For one, highly sensitive people often have such a rich <span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>inner life that their first instinct isn’t necessarily to seek a lot of external praise and attention. They are often happy to place the focus on others. But not forever. As soon as a highly sensitive person realizes that the lack of attention and care they get from another person is not a passing trend but a fact of life, they will bail.</p>
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<div class="MsoNormal">I hope that these tips help you with your friendships!</div>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/49605092017-12-03T08:07:00-06:002020-09-26T00:47:35-05:00What is an Empath?<div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Raleway, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 1em;">Once upon a Star Trek series, there was Next Generation character called Dianna Troi who was half-human, half-Betazoid, and who, through some gift of paranormal electronics, had the ability to sense emotions telepathically. Troi is credited for bringing the term “empath” to mainstream consciousness. <img src="https://d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/6e10063f2fd98de13bde1d136a5e2c4588f507c7/small/screen-shot-2017-12-02-at-12-23-02-pm.png" class="size_s justify_none border_" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; display: block; height: auto; margin: 0.5em auto; width: 125px;" />
</div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Raleway, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 1em;">The term has since evolved to various meanings and connotations, some of them vaguely otherworldly with an inference that Empaths are part of a phenomenon of evolved spiritual beings meant to heal the planet with their gifts of augmented emotional IQ, compassion, observation and general sensitivity. </div><h4 style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: 'Roboto Mono', monospace; font-size: 13px; font-weight: 400; line-height: 1.6; margin: 0.5em 0px; text-transform: uppercase;"><em style="box-sizing: border-box;">IN SOME INTERNET CIRCLES “EMPATH” IS THROWN OUT AS A SARCASTIC INSULT WHEN SOMEONE IS BEING EXTRAORDINARILY SELF-CENTERED AND UNSYMPATHETIC. </em></h4><div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Raleway, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 1em;">Science fiction casts Empaths as characters who can feel the pain of the world, know the feelings of those at a great distance, or in some cases absorb the feelings of others parasitically to use for their own purposes. </div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Raleway, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 1em;">
<img src="https://d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/7bb0963a74047a9204d0c27486accb6980807c95/small/screen-shot-2017-12-02-at-12-29-38-pm.png" class="size_s justify_none border_" style="border: 0px; box-sizing: border-box; display: block; height: auto; margin: 0.5em auto; width: 125px;" />Increasingly, highly sensitive people are identifying as Empaths in a psychological and physiological terms. The human brain contains a specialized group of cells that enable people to mirror one another’s emotions. Evidence shows that these mirror neurons are more active and hyper-responsive in the brains of Empaths, a tendency that can be genetically passed on.</div><div style="box-sizing: border-box; font-family: Raleway, sans-serif; font-size: 16px; line-height: 1.5; margin-bottom: 1em; margin-top: 1em;">Do you think you might be an Empath? <a contents="Take this QUIZ and find out!&nbsp;" data-link-label="Are You an Empath?" data-link-type="page" href="https://holidaymathis.com/are-you-an-empath" style="box-sizing: border-box; color: #bc3803; text-decoration: none;">Take this QUIZ and find out! </a>
</div>Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/49602642017-12-03T07:51:00-06:002020-09-19T03:46:50-05:00The Sacred Brentwood Library The John P. Holt Brentwood Library in Brentwood Tennessee is a few miles from my house and I can walk there via the Brentwood trail system (which is twenty-plus miles of paved peace if you're asking me.) This library has been my favorite place for years, and one thing that always intrigued me about it was that it was built over an ancient grave site.<br><img src="https://d10j3mvrs1suex.cloudfront.net/u/244592/b2c785d152ccdf1dd2468941c84942bfcd3b7379/medium/de4158f57b6e6ee0c74b6d5c227a9a55.jpg" class="size_m justify_center border_" /><br>The ancients unearthed were of the Missippian Culture and most of the bones and artifacts were dated circa 1300 and 1400's. The more research I did into this culture, the more fascinating they became to me. With the help of the international audio tour app, VoiceMap I created an audio walking tour so I could share some of the mysteries of these sun worshiping ancients with others who are intrigued by what happened in this place 700 years ago.<br>Sprits of the Ancient South is one mile and 30 minutes of audio. You can get the tour on your computer <a href="https://voicemap.me/tour/nashville/spirits-of-the-ancient-south#story" target="_blank">HERE. </a><br><br>The best way is to download the app VOICEMAP from the ape store and use this free code: <b>CFKSUW</b> for your free tour of <b>Spirits of the Ancient South. </b><br><br>PEACE!Holiday Mathistag:holidaymathis.com,2005:Post/49602652017-12-03T07:29:00-06:002020-07-05T07:32:37-05:00Today I Learned About Talking AnimalsThere have been, in the history of the world, a number of talking animals. Birds who learned to verbalize human language. Chimpanzees who learned to sign. And among the many messages these animals have expressed, scientists have only one animal on record – an African Gray parrot named Alex – who has ever asked an existential question. Alex asked what color he was.<br><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><a href="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ulXVxnOSoV4/WiP76swJ6DI/AAAAAAAAAx4/xk0udh6IT0EM6Lc2TqoCCDdOJ0Wp7q3VQCLcBGAs/s1600/Screen%2BShot%2B2017-12-02%2Bat%2B12.08.00%2BPM.png" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: 1em; margin-right: 1em;"><img src="https://4.bp.blogspot.com/-ulXVxnOSoV4/WiP76swJ6DI/AAAAAAAAAx4/xk0udh6IT0EM6Lc2TqoCCDdOJ0Wp7q3VQCLcBGAs/s320/Screen%2BShot%2B2017-12-02%2Bat%2B12.08.00%2BPM.png" class="size_orig justify_inline border_" height="211" width="320" /></a></div>One might conclude that there is, in the animals, a kind of existential contentedness that humans do not possess. As a person who struggles to accept life as it is, I envy any being with animalistic and unquestioning acceptance of a natural reality. And yet a certain discontented wonderment over one’s own existence seems ingrained in the very fiber of humanity. To stretch beyond what is currently known and what can currently be proven is to be fully human. What clearly distinguishes us from bird and beast? Questions. Well, questions and cable television bills.<br><br>If you're like me and you have a lot of questions about the nature of existence, specifically YOURS, I'll be exploring it in this diary. Tell me what you want me to explore! Aliens? Energy grids? The nature of love?<br><br>Go on, <a href="https://holidaymathis.com/contact" target="_blank">ASK A QUESTION</a>: It's only human!Holiday Mathis